"The Big Tough Girl Club"!

Eternal parents Jim and Dara and Katie the Birth Mother of Azyln and Liam!

"Chelsey is a Big Tough Girl"

Two "Big Tough Girls"! I love these girls so much! Two Moms!

I might should explain this for those of you who are not familiar with the "Big Tough Girl Club"! The girls who are in the "Big Tough Girl Club" are birth mothers! The Saturday before Mothers Day is a holiday to celebrate as well!! It is Birth Mothers Day!!
I could talk for ever about birth moms , because I love them so very much and have a deep respect for each one!! I have been blessed to be a part of and witness miracles and a love I can not describe!! In order to be a birth mom you have to be tough because it is by far the most selfless loving act I have ever seen! These moms love their babies so much and want to parent their baby more than anything...But yet know they cannot give their baby a mom and a dad and give them all they need when facing a out of wedlock pregnancy! As I have witnessed in placement ceremonies birth moms PLACING their beautiful babies in the arms of their Eternal moms arms... I can say I have never felt or witnessed the spirit in that way any other time! I have always tried to share this experience with Tom but he just never understood until he went to a placement ceremony! Tom has said he wishes everyone one in the world could be at a placement ceremony because this world would have far less abortions and people could also understand adoption much better! Years ago adoptions were closed and birth moms would not even get to see their babies! It is no longer like that! It is amazing to see the relationship between birth mother and their baby's eternal parents! The love, respect from both sides is truly hard to describe! Am I saying that "Tough Girls" don't have some hard days??? NO!! But through the healing powers of the Atonement and their Heavenly Father's arms around these tough girls...all is possible and you can go on and be happy knowing you gave your baby ALL you could! I know for sure birth moms knew prior to coming to earth they would carry a baby for an Eternal mom that would not be able to carry a child! As I see birth moms receive pictures and videos from their babies eternal moms and dads quite often....and as I see the respect and boundaries that birth mothers give the baby's eternal parents it truly is a slice of Heaven! As Katie sat next to me in the sealing room at the Temple on Saturday....I feel sure I could feel her heart beating! The spirit in the room was palpable! I watch the tears roll down the cheeks of Azyln and Liam's eternal mom and dad...I could not help but to feel their gratitude toward Katie that Dara and Jim have for their birth mother and the over whelming love from Katie has toward Dara and Jim, the Eternal parents! As the baby was brought into the sealing room... the Sealer asked who would be holding Liam at the alter! As Katie sat in her white dress she raised her hand ever so slightly... and the Sealer quickly asked are you Liam's aunt?? I happened to know the Sealer and he is a pretty tough kind of a guy! Dara quickly said no... Katie is Liam's birth mother! He was kind of caught off guard but... with tears coming from his eyes he said "Oh how wonderful"! I later spoke to Brother Heywood and he told me in all of the years he has served in the church as a mission president, in high callings and a long time Temple worker.... He had never been apart of something like this and he said he felt SO blessed to share such a beautiful sacred spiritual time of each of these mother's lives! It truly was so amazing!! All of Katie's family were there to support her and all of the Eternal parents family were their to support everyone as well! I brought another birth mom with me to be somewhat a part of the experience and as she sat waiting in the Temple at the front... She to was over come with the spirit as well! I feel sure she was feeling what we were as well! Chelsey's baby will be sealed to his eternal parents in June and she and her mother will fly to Utah to be a part of that sealing also. So back to the "BIG TOUGH GIRL CLUB".... It takes a TOUGH selfless person to be a birth mother! I know I am not that tough!! I am so thankful to be able to have dear, sweet friends who I love and respect more than words can describe!! This group of birth moms are so loving and supportive with one another as well....I love to watch the bond they have... Birth Mothers are AMAZING and "BIG TOUGH GIRLS'!! I love you ALL!!
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